Five Important Qualities for Effective Parenting

We all bring our own individual strengths to parenthood. For example, my husband is great at planning grand adventures, I’m good at packing the snacks and making sure everyone dresses in layers. (Can you guess who the fun one in that relationship might be?) Some traits serve us better than others, and we’ve all heard … Read more

The What, How, and Why of Respectful Parenting

Positive parenting, peaceful parenting, respectful parenting, gentle parenting. Call it what you want, these concepts are all more alike than they are different. Odds are you’ve stumbled across one of these phrases in a blog post or from a friend. Maybe you’ve heard that this approach is permissive, that it’s raising up a generation of … Read more

Stop with the Parenting Articles

Stop with the Parenting Articles

There are a LOT of parenting articles out there. Each time I scroll through Facebook, I encounter at least ten new articles. Sometimes we read articles that speak directly to our experience and either affirm our choices or help us understand a particular struggle. These give us a great sense of relief and help boost … Read more

What to Do When Your Family Doesn’t Support Your Parenting Style

For many of us, summer means family gatherings: BBQs, weddings, and family reunions all bring us closer to our families, whether they live around the corner or on the other side of the world. And while seeing great-aunt Mildred and hearing stories from generations past can be a real treat, spending an extended period of time with family can also evoke old emotions. We might love our families and simultaneously feel as though we aren’t entirely accepted by them. We brace ourselves for criti […]

Why “Just Ignore Him” Is Terrible Parenting Advice

  “Just ignore him when he acts like that. He’s just doing it to get attention.” We’ve all heard this advice from fellow parents, pediatricians, and even parenting experts. Your toddler or preschooler drops to the ground and is lost in the throes of an epic tantrum, and you’re advised that the best course of … Read more

Ask a Therapist: 4-Year-Old Having Difficulty with Transitions

Q: My four and a half year old is having an extremely difficult time right now with transitions. I know part of it is her age, and part of it is that her school year just came to a close, but every single time we have to transition from one thing to another (dinner to getting ready for bed, leaving an activity or place to go home, etc.), we have tears, negotiations, running away, and sometimes even full-on tantrums. I always try to give a two-minute warning before we end an activity, and I alway […]

Parenting Without Fear

I hear the concerns so often in my practice: “I don’t want him to grow up to be entitled.” “What if she grows up to be selfish?”“I’m worried he won’t understand how the real world works.” So many of us are weighed down by fears based entirely in the future, some years or even decades from the present. In The Awakened Family, Dr. Shefali points out that, “Our relationship with our children is as rooted in fear as it is in love…when the rati […]